Keep Talking Too Much
An interesting title right?
When I was a little girl during my basic and primary education I always had that annoying remark on my report card by the class teacher in the class teacher remark section of the report card. "talks too much" and the likes of it. As i grew older and went through my reports cards I got thinking, do I really talk that much?, am I really noisy? All this questions came popping up and the answers for each of them was no and still remains no! Why then do my teacher say and believe so much that I talk a lot. (Thanks to my Parents who answered my every question and taught me how and when to ask them.)
The answer got to me at an older stage of my life when I became a teenager. I am a fun and curious individual that's it. My teachers could not comprehend that level of curiosity in me at a young age, I asked and wanted to know and saw them as the right source to get answers from but they saw it the other way because they expected that a child of a certain age is supposed to talk a certain way. Not their fault though. Am not saying am a special child in any way because am not. am just a curious, fun person who loves talking.
Lol, I am not contradicting my self when I say I love talking and shouldn't be called a talkative. The kind of fun person I am is by its talking and I talk well. On several occasions my friends ask me to go with them to meet friends or families just because they are rest assured that I will lighten up the environment with my numerous gist and discussions. Clearly, am fun.
Like everything that has an advantage has a disadvantage too. This article is basically for those of us who like and enjoy talking.
There is a technique to talking I mean talking as part of what you enjoy. I'll call it the 'balloon in air' style or procedure. This is what I use.
HOW DOES THIS STYLE WORK?
This 'balloon in air' style simply means talking on general issues and events. When talking to people either in a large or small gathering, We that love talking like to be the center of attention so,
When with this set of people, especially the ones not so close to you; the same style is used but the difference is your contribution to the topic while giving references. This is because conversions with this set of people is usually personal, from experiences and about other people. The talking person that you are doesn't want to quit yet doesn't want any one to know so much about your personal life. "Balloon in air comes in" and this time, site examples you have heard from a family or close friend and not your personal experience. here you take charge of what you say, more over you are the person who rightfully knows the story. At the end of the day you would have said and giving a lot of examples on the on going topic without saying anything about your immediate family and life.
You automatically become different from a talkative because a talkative is a person who speaks openly and honestly, neglecting privacy and consequences and we are not that. we are people who enjoy talking and talking with wisdom. Little wonder many people who refer to me as" talkative" or "talks too much" don't even know anything other than my first name. When this realization sets in they begins to wonder what it is I've been saying and how much of themselves they have spilled.
For those of us who enjoy talking, lets keep doing what we love and keep being the centre of attention, and keep our personal lives in check.
Note this: When speaking of some one to other people, always say what you can defend anywhere.
Comment on any other talking style you practice. if this was helpful also please share.
NEETA
When I was a little girl during my basic and primary education I always had that annoying remark on my report card by the class teacher in the class teacher remark section of the report card. "talks too much" and the likes of it. As i grew older and went through my reports cards I got thinking, do I really talk that much?, am I really noisy? All this questions came popping up and the answers for each of them was no and still remains no! Why then do my teacher say and believe so much that I talk a lot. (Thanks to my Parents who answered my every question and taught me how and when to ask them.)
The answer got to me at an older stage of my life when I became a teenager. I am a fun and curious individual that's it. My teachers could not comprehend that level of curiosity in me at a young age, I asked and wanted to know and saw them as the right source to get answers from but they saw it the other way because they expected that a child of a certain age is supposed to talk a certain way. Not their fault though. Am not saying am a special child in any way because am not. am just a curious, fun person who loves talking.
Lol, I am not contradicting my self when I say I love talking and shouldn't be called a talkative. The kind of fun person I am is by its talking and I talk well. On several occasions my friends ask me to go with them to meet friends or families just because they are rest assured that I will lighten up the environment with my numerous gist and discussions. Clearly, am fun.
Like everything that has an advantage has a disadvantage too. This article is basically for those of us who like and enjoy talking.
There is a technique to talking I mean talking as part of what you enjoy. I'll call it the 'balloon in air' style or procedure. This is what I use.
HOW DOES THIS STYLE WORK?
This 'balloon in air' style simply means talking on general issues and events. When talking to people either in a large or small gathering, We that love talking like to be the center of attention so,
- Start off with a global issue you are sure every one would have heard of.
- Have your say/opinion on the issue raised
- Another person would definitely have an opinion to share
- Now you automatically become the host of this talking spree and can change the topic as it suits your. its your world.
When with this set of people, especially the ones not so close to you; the same style is used but the difference is your contribution to the topic while giving references. This is because conversions with this set of people is usually personal, from experiences and about other people. The talking person that you are doesn't want to quit yet doesn't want any one to know so much about your personal life. "Balloon in air comes in" and this time, site examples you have heard from a family or close friend and not your personal experience. here you take charge of what you say, more over you are the person who rightfully knows the story. At the end of the day you would have said and giving a lot of examples on the on going topic without saying anything about your immediate family and life.
You automatically become different from a talkative because a talkative is a person who speaks openly and honestly, neglecting privacy and consequences and we are not that. we are people who enjoy talking and talking with wisdom. Little wonder many people who refer to me as" talkative" or "talks too much" don't even know anything other than my first name. When this realization sets in they begins to wonder what it is I've been saying and how much of themselves they have spilled.
For those of us who enjoy talking, lets keep doing what we love and keep being the centre of attention, and keep our personal lives in check.
Note this: When speaking of some one to other people, always say what you can defend anywhere.
Comment on any other talking style you practice. if this was helpful also please share.
NEETA
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